I lived in Taiwan for 5 years. Based on my observations, there’s a huge difference between a westerner that moves there and coincidentally ends up with a Taiwanese girlfriend/wife versus those who move there with an East Asian fetish lol.

I remember my first month in Taiwan I went to an event as was talking to a British guy that married a Taiwanese woman and has a child with her. By the end of the conversation I’ve concluded the guy was absolutely miserable. He hates Taiwan and would rather be in the UK. He is mad that his wife isn’t interested in going to the UK and hates how controlling she is. He’s basically “stuck” because all he can do in Taiwan is be an English teacher (he hates his job). He isn’t fluent in Mandarin, so he can’t do anything else. I’ve met others like this before too.

Hate to make assumptions, but I wouldn’t be surprised if he dated her thinking he would be the one in control of her life.

The main difficulties of an intercultural relationships/marriages are figuring out how to coexist with language/other cultural differences, how to raise children should a couple have any, potentially dealing with ethnocentric parents that don’t approve of the relationship, and if you’re not citizens/residents of the same country: deciding where to live and dealing with the visa application nightmare. Outside of that, there nothing wrong with them. I’m the product of one. It’s not a new phenomenon at all. People ie passport bros are going about it in a weird way because when they bash their own nationality to the whole world now that they’re dating someone of a different one. Maybe western women would’ve cared less if those men propped up their partners without being petty. I’ve also noticed it’s typically western men who date non-western women that do this, not the ones who date westerners of a different country. And that’s probably why people have smoke for one over the other.

I have dated non-American men and never did it cross my mind to bash American men nor did I have any stereotypical expectations based on their nationalities. I simply got to know them. Funny enough, the non-American men I dated are from more traditional cultures yet they weren’t bent on asking me about my cooking and cleaning abilities like the American relationship “experts” who obsess over that stuff. Neither did the American men, but that just shows how much people can be the same no matter where they’re from. People are people. Both great and horrific people exist all over the world.

It’s very much possible to have preferences without being an asshole to those who don’t meet your preferences. I’m personally not convinced someone is truly happy in their relationship if they spend so much time trying to piss off the people they’re supposedly not attracted to. Sounds like some teenage trauma they haven’t fully recovered from.